Mistaking A Painful Narrative for True Connection As An Alienated Parent
Do you feel chained to the painful memories of your custody situation? Like youre obligated to tell and re-tell the same old stories about the same old incidents in order to make sense of WHY this has all happened?
Even if you made a deciosjojn to drop it and move on, do you find yourself feeling blocked or stuck as a result of the power your ex holds over your life?
I did. I was TERRIFIED of becoming a “has-been” parent. So, I held on to the torturous narrative in effort to excuse myself from being alienated, and oddly, because I felt that without the story, I wouldn’t have a purpose… that I would be letting go of the last hint of connection I had with my daughter. Somehow I thought the pain would keep her memory close… But I would ALWAYS end up feeling MORE alienated as a result.
It became an automatic response. I would cry or get angry on cue (I wasn’t doing it intentionally… consciously… it just became my norm…)
In this episode:
- Why we hold onto the pain
- Pain causing thoughts
- Connection causing thoughts
- What makes an active parent?
- Does the pain of alienation rob you of the ability to love?
- How to change the narrative
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